3 Simple Ways To Overcome Your Fear Of Rejection
You got it. It’s their fear of being rejected.
Reality is, from the moment that we guys open their mouths, we instantly get tongue-tied. We trip over our words. We broadcast weak, nervous body-language. We say and do everything to come across as anxious, desperate, inexperienced, or (worst of all)… boring.
All of which gives a high-quality woman no other way to respond…
She instantly REJECTS you. And who could blame her?
She has a dozen guys lined up behind you who want her attention. Why would she waste one second more with a man who shows every sign of being an insecure Wuss right off the bat?
That in mind… what are the best ways to overcome this lethal fear and get ahead of almost every other guy in the game? Here are my Top 3 that work like MAGIC…
You wouldn’t step into the batter’s box and try to hit a major league fastball without being prepared for what’s coming.
It’s no different when it comes to approaching women.
The vast majority of the anxiety involved comes from your fear of the unknown. That’s why the most important investment you can make in success is MENTAL PREPARATION before you try.
Do just that much, and you’ll be blown away by how much it reduces your fear of rejection – and therefore makes you come across as the kind of guy that a woman wants to spend a few minutes getting to know.
It’s like a miracle cure. Here’s how to start using it:
Take some time before you step out of the house to close your eyes and actually envision how your interactions with women might go.
Envision all the different ways a woman might react to you. Imagine good outcomes, like having her be extremely polite and courteous, probably saying something along the lines of, “That’s so nice of you, I’m flattered.”
By the way, this is actually the most LIKELY outcome any time you approach a woman… 99% of the time, she does NOT want to hurt your feelings or make you feel embarrassed!
Also imagine less-good outcomes, like having a woman simply walk away without saying anything.
That way, you’ll be ready for it. And, even it if happens, guess what… IT WON’T KILL YOU.
In fact, it won’t even hurt a little… once you’re prepared for it.
Do just this much, and you’ll actually begin to feel like you’ve been out there approaching women already… like you have real-world experience… and that translates into priceless CONFIDENCE that will drastically increase your chances of success when you actually get out there and try.
If you’ve never done this exercise before, try it.
You’ll gain a LOT from it.
2. Just Do It
If you can’t figure out how to get over your fear of approaching women at this point in your life, it all boils down to this:
The only way to learn to swim is to jump into the pool.
In other words, you’re going to have to accept your fear and just get out there and do it anyway.
Like I said… the majority of the anxiety involved in approaching women comes from your fear of the unknown. The rest comes from FEAR OF EMBARRASSMENT.
That in mind, you need to get out there and see for yourself what happens when you approach women.
Like I also sad… once you approach a bunch of real women and talk to them, you’ll find that nothing bad is going to happen to you. So find some easily available, approachable women to practice on!
Who are these women?
They’re women who HAVE to talk with you because they’re PAID to do it!
No, I’m not talking about “those” women… I’m talking about waitresses and sales clerks.
They’re basically a captive audience, so approach them. Talk to them.
Just always remember to be respectful and cool about it… these women may be required to listen to you, but they certainly don’t deserve to be harassed or embarrassed.
That in mind, walk right up to them and ask questions.
Get a feel for what it’s like to interact with these beautiful woman.
Once you’re used to doing it in regular, pressure-free situations, you’ll be amazed how far it goes to take away your fear of approaching women for actual dates.
3. Bring The Right Tools For The Job
You can’t get any job done right without having the right tools.
Approaching women without any fear of rejection is no different.
And the most powerful tools you can possibly bring with you are the right CONVERSATION STARTERS.
Here are a few of my favorites to try … these are challenging, funny, and interesting. Most of all, they create instant curiosity, so start using them today:
“Does it seem to you like women are crazy and men are perfect?”
This one challenges a woman on a very deep level… the very best way to make a woman want to engage with you is to make her want to prove you wrong! Say this, and you’ll have her full attention… and an INSTANT conversation.
“Were you just staring at me like you want me?”
I love this one. It immediately eliminates any suspicion in her mind that you could possibly be a “wuss”… also known as the biggest attraction-killer there is. Added bonus – it opens up a whole line of conversation where she’s basically defending herself. Priceless!
“Looking at you just now, I got to thinking what you’d have to change to be with me.”
You may not believe it right now, but even the most beautiful women have insecurities. This line is the best way to tap into them and get a woman DYING to know what you’re thinking about her. And that gives YOU all the power.
“Did you hear what happened today?”
There’s proven science is behind this one… ALL human beings are hard-wired for news and gossip. So review the news and then say this to a woman, and she’ll be all over this, wanting to know what you’ve heard.
Of course, you also need to present all these topics in the right way… maintaining eye contact and not coming off as creepy or too intense. Being COCKY and FUNNY in the right balance so that she laughs without your coming across as a jerk.
So keep it in mind… and then get out there and try these!
Even if you DO feel anxious about rejection while taking these magic steps, your inner psyche will be learning the whole time and getting a new message loud and clear:
You Really CAN Do This!
You won’t shrivel up and die if you get rejected.
You won’t disappear from the face of the earth if a woman doesn’t give you her number.
Best of all, with all of this experience under your belt, imagine how much more CONFIDENT you’ll be NEXT TIME you approach a woman.
And, like I always say, confidence is the whole ballgame when it comes to leaving your fear of rejection behind forever.
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Until next time…