How To Get The Attention Of A High-Quality Woman ~Dating Tips by David DeAngelo
How do high-quality women decide whether you’re worth a second look… or whether you’re just another “meh” guy who will waste their time so they practically look right through you?
Great question. And the answer involves both bad news and good news.
The bad news is… once a great woman decides to “pass” on you, there are no second chances. After spending time with you on a date or even after meeting you for the very first time, if there’s no interest (let alone any feelings of attraction) it’s game over.
But here’s the good news:
If you can make a great woman think to herself, even for a moment, that… “Hmm, there MIGHT be something here worth exploring a little more…” then you’ve done more to succeed with her than just about every guy she meets.
That’s why, from the moment you meet her, your focus needs to be on making that impression… highlighting qualities that identify you as a potential “Mr. Right” while avoiding the lethal mistakes that 99% of guys make and can NEVER recover from.
Above all… despite everything you believe right now, accomplishing this has nothing to do with being cool, rich or famous. It’s simply about communicating a few things about yourself that will capture her attention right off the bat, often before she even realizes it.
Here’s how to do it:
Show Her You Have A Life
Like I said… the key to grabbing a great woman’s interest is showing her that you’re different from the herds of boring, insecure guys who hit on her every day.
That’s why it follows… if you want to keep her from having that “next” feeling the moment she meets you, you have to do is show her you’re NOT like those guys.
The best way to communicate this to her is showing her that you “have a life”… that you’re a fulfilled, fully realized man whom she would enjoy getting to know… while, at the same time, letting her know that YOU won’t be losing any sleep if she’s not interested.
And guess what… there’s no better way to get this across to a woman than actually HAVING a life. So make getting one your ultimate goal, starting right now.
From creating a social network of great friends to hang with, to focusing on your financial and professional success, to pursuing your ultimate passions in life with clubs and organizations, START FEELING GREAT ABOUT LIFE.
Once you do, that attitude will automatically seep out into everything you do – including your interactions with women. This sensation alone is enough to make ANY woman pause and think, “Geez, I might miss out on something if I don’t explore this a little more… “
And then the door is open.
Of course, once she’s interested, it’s about closing the deal. And this comes down to just one thing:
Master The Art Of Conversation
Harsh reality: one you get your foot in the door, if you give a woman ANY reason to start having doubts about you (especially early on) it’s very hard to get things back on track.
And what’s the number-one way most guys go off the rails at this point?
With the things they say.
You can set your watch by it. a guy catches a great woman’s interest but then says something that makes her shut down and start looking at her watch. Or for the exit door.
It usually happens when a guy “defaults” to barraging a woman with the standard, needy questions like, “So what kind of guys do you like?” or “So, am I your type?” Or, of course, the ultimate interest-killer: “How do you think things are going?”
Can’t say it enough… if you want to make a great first impression on a high-quality woman, DON’T do this stuff. Ban it from your repertoire of conversation. And I mean now.
Instead, learn to open up a dialog that draws a great woman in and engages her.
I recommend doing it by giving yourself a daily “crash course” on what’s happening in the world, and then fine-tuning your ability to speak on it intelligently or humorously. (See how it keeps coming back to improving YOURSELF when it comes to all this stuff?)
Learn to create engaging, valuable conversation – it is not hard to do. Jump online before you go out. Read through the major news sites. Think about your point of view on what you’re reading. Have a clear, interesting take – but make sure it’s one that’s not going to come off as offensive or argumentative.
Then, as you talk to her, casually mix this stuff into the conversation along the way WITHOUT sounding like a boring know-it-all (anyone remember Cliff Clavin from Cheers?)
It’s the most powerful way to draw a great woman in… to entice her to invest her limited time and attention in exploring your potential… and hopefully, down the line, your body, too.
All of this in mind, remember that “closing the deal” with ANY great woman is about just one thing:
Learn How To Stand Out From The Crowd
If you do NOTHING else, this one’s the key. While most men are busy sabotaging themselves with their overwhelming impulse to impress women, you can find life-changing new success by just NOT doing that.
While every other guy hems and haws, uses cheesy lines, and acts nervous – make sure that YOU don’t. While every other guy kisses up to her and doesn’t dare to tease her a bit, make sure that you DO.
Above all, focus on deepening your own confidence and understanding of what a great woman really wants, and it you will suddenly, “magically” be able to do something that VERY few men can do:
Come off as the kind of man that a great woman finds irresistible.
If you’d like to drill down into even more specific, action-step ways to do it, here’s what I recommend:
Jump over and take a look at my world-famous “Approaching Women” program. This is where thousands of average, regular guys have learned simply and step-by-step how to get the attention of amazing women… so I know YOU can do it, too.