Critical Moments And Bridges
How To Go From One Step To The Next With Women – The First Meeting To The Bedroom
When I first started learning about how to meet women, I realized that there were some major ‘problem areas’ that I had to deal with.
After learning how to handle them myself, I realized that almost ALL men have these same stumbling blocks. Here I hope to help you see these areas and improve the ones that you need help with.
To begin with, let me explain what I mean by a ‘Critical Moment.’
These are the moments in time where you have to do something to advance to the next level.
For instance: If you’re with a woman and you’re having a great conversation, you might want to take the relationship to a physical level.
Most men I know are not sure how to ‘transition’ into this next phase.
Or let’s say you see a woman that you’d like to meet, and you have to decide whether or not you’re going to walk over and say hello. This is a critical moment. If you don’t do it, you probably won’t get another chance.
I know one guy who meets a lot of women. Women really seem to like him when they first meet him. He can get dates, and get them to come home with him. But every time he tries to get physical with a woman, she decides that it’s time to leave.
I know another guy who meets women everywhere we go. Women just love him. They laugh and joke with him. But he never asks any of them for their phone number, so he doesn’t date any of them.
The problem with Critical Moments is that they almost ALWAYS require the man to take initiative and do something that can be REJECTED by the woman. For instance, walking up and saying hello, asking for a date, kissing her, etc.
In all of these situations, a man has to go through the possibility of rejection. This keeps most men from even trying. And most guys have at least one or two areas that they’re not confident about.
If you’re not confident and know exactly where you’re going and what you’re doing, you’re going to be likely to make a mistake, say something wrong, and cause the woman to reject you at one of these important turning points.
The danger, of course, is that if a man makes a mistake at one of these key times that offends the woman, she may decide to leave.
Every new relationship is like a complex puzzle. You can make it through many steps, then make a mistake and have it all fall apart. Are you with me?
Here’s my list of the Critical Moments:
- Approach (Walking over and saying hello)
- Digits (Getting a phone number, email address, etc.)
- Date request (This can actually be done when you first meet)
- Date (The actual time with her)
- Hold hands (The first sustained physical contact)
- Kiss (The first ‘intimate’ contact)
- Alone in private (Trust)
- Make out (Sexually aroused)
- Clothes off (Very sexually aroused)
- Sex (Very very very sexually aroused!)
As far as I’m concerned, if a person needs improvement in an area of life, they usually need to learn a new SKILL. Too many people make the mistake of thinking that something’s wrong with them, and that they’ll never be able to overcome their obstacle. Just remember, it’s all about learning a new skill to overcome each obstacle.
So I’ve taken each of these different Critical Moments and created what I call a ‘Bridge’ for each.
Let me explain what a Bridge is.
Before each Critical moment, there are certain things that happen. These often set up the Critical Moment that is about to follow.
For instance, if you’re talking to a woman on the telephone, and you want to ask her for a coffee date, what happens on that phone call will largely determine whether or not she meets you.
Or if you are on a date, and you’d like to kiss her, her mood and level of enjoyment is going to determine whether or not she’s going to be receptive to a kiss.
The times ‘between’ Critical Moments are Bridges. If you set up the critical moment correctly, you will be much more likely to be successful than if you don’t. If you learn all of my ‘Bridge Strategies’ this will help you move smoothly from one Critical Moment to the next.
And the best part about some of my Bridge techniques is that they CAUSE HER to take the initiative and go to the next level. For instance, if you’re alone with a woman who you’ve already kissed, and you’d like to make out with her, you can use my ‘smelling her’ technique [explained later].
Probably the most important Bridge is between talking and getting physical. Most men just don’t know how to advance to a physical level… [Continued in Bonus Report #2]