The feeling of the emotional connection and fear of loss when meeting women online…
I mentioned earlier the idea of getting “too involved” and allowing the internet to replace the real world.
When you start talking to women online, its easy to get addicted to the feeling of emotional connection.
Especially if its someone you “click with”.
For a lot of guys, the experience of talking to a woman online can be their first experience getting comfortable and opening up with a woman. It’s easy to do because they are sitting in the safety of their own home, they can focus on the level of communication being used without distractions. They kind of go into that “connection trance”.
Its very easy to become addicted to that, and feel like if something goes wrong, I am going to LOSE something. There is a genuine fear of loss when meeting women online.
Its almost like that text comes out of the IM window and gets plugged in to your main vein there.
You feel like, “Uh-oh, if I screw this up with her, I’m going to lose my connection then I won’t have anyone to talk to.
But take a step back and examine the situation. Is that REALLY the case? Is this someone you have had an ongoing relationship with for years? Someone whose presence or absence in your life would be a huge emotional impact?
In most cases, when you are just meeting a woman online and starting to talk to her, if you lose her, its REALLY no big deal. You are CREATING a big deal out of it because you have gotten lost in the feeling, the false feeling, of a true emotional connection.
That can’t happen online or via text or IM. You can’t get to that part the REAL emotional connection of a true and valid relationship, until you are face to face with a woman, and getting to know the real person behind the screen.
Be aware of that. Don’t allow that to creep in.
One of the things that I am going to recommend you do (and you will hear me talk about this later in the program) is that if you don’t feel that “click” with a woman, if you don’t feel that attraction, that connection, break it off. Don’t waste any more of your time.
End it right there. “Great talking to you! Bye!”
If you feel like a woman is being too “high maintenance”, say, “You know what? Thanks for talking with me. Have a good night. Bye!”
What you will find is, once you get good, in a high percentage of cases, they’ll come back and go, “What?”
And THAT will be the thing that sparks the attraction.
Don’t let this stuff get into your veins, you know?
Don’t let it make that emotional addiction happen.
Ending a conversation with a woman who you are not “feeling it” for is just going to free you up to meet the next girl, and the next girl might be your total 10, your perfect woman. Don’t waste time on the ones who are not going to fit that bill for you.
Remember that you are looking for what you WANT. Don’t settle.
For more on online dating and how to master it, check out Davi’d program, Meeting Women Online!