If You’re Serious About Making True Love WORK, This Is The Most Important Letter You Will Read This Year (And Maybe In Your Entire Life)…
Dear Friend Who Wants to Make Love Last,
Are you interested in learning how to make True Love actually work in your life?
Are you serious about experiencing a REAL partnership with the person you’re in love with – and not just a “normal relationship” with them?
Would you like to learn how to turn fights and conflicts into real, consistent opportunities to become more intimate with your partner?
If you would like to take your romantic partnership to the next level (or attract True Love in your life), then I’d like to invite you to a very special live workshop that my wife and I are teaching at the end of April.
And Yes, I Said “My Wife…”
A lot has been happening in my life over the last couple of years.
Let me share an important story with you.
A few years ago, I taught my very last dating program for men. It was called “Become Mr. Right” — and the program was about becoming the man that an amazing woman would want to be with.
In it, the men learned a couple of very important skills. One of them was becoming more emotionally intelligent, and learning to make your partner feel safer when sharing her feelings. Another key element was finding your purpose or direction in life, and going to work to really make it happen.
I had been developing these areas of my own life, and found them to be very important in relationships.
Little did I know… how important these two things would be to what was coming for me…
My “Former Life” As A Dating Guru
I’ve probably helped more men around the world how to be successful in dating than anyone else. Millions of men have read my newsletters, watched my videos and purchased my books and dating success programs.
But there’s something you may not know about me.
Even though I had mastered the “dating game…” I actually gave up on ever finding a woman that I would want to be with… for the rest of my life.
In fact, I thought that the idea of “True Love” was a romantic fantasy that poets and idealists wrote stories about. Again, little did I know…
Even though I had as many dates as I wanted (and occasionally a relationship that lasted a year or two) it just didn’t seem like it was ever going to really happen for me.
I had actually “accepted” that I was probably going to be single forever…
A few years ago, right around the time I realized I was probably going to be a “serial dater” for the rest of my life, I went to an amazing art and music festival called “Burning Man.”
A couple of my best friends were going, and they said I should come.
I want to warn you: You actually have to be out of your mind to go to Burning Man. Seriously. You start out in Reno, Nevada… then drive about 100 miles into the middle of the desert… out onto a prehistoric 10-mile-wide lake-bed… that is now basically a flat, solid, totally uninhabited place.
For a week.
Oh, and there’s no electricity, phones, or trash cans.
Oh, and it ranges from about 100 degrees down to freezing.
Oh, and there are dust storms. The kind where you can’t see 10 feet in front of you – with 50-mile-per-hour winds.
But 50,000 or so people attend, and it sounded like a lot of fun, so I went.
The first year, I basically hung out with my friends, and kept dropping my jaw in awe at epic art installation, fire-dancers or free food offerings. There were giant open-air nightclubs in the middle of the desert, with thousands of people dancing — all dressed in crazy outfits.
Top DJs from around the world fly in. It’s totally mind-blowing.
After attending that first year, and seeing that this was a place where cutting-edge artists and thinkers hung out (these types tend to be crazy anyway)…
…I Got An “Interesting” Idea
I realized that this would be a great place to do a talk, and share some of my favorite ideas about how to improve ourselves and make the world a better place. I talked to one of the guys who was organizing our group for the next year, and we put a plan together for me to do a talk in our camp.
For some reason, I got the bright idea to do my talk on Friday afternoon, in the middle of the day (when it’s hottest). I also got the bright idea to do the talk for 3 solid hours. “Genius.”
Before the event, I told a few friends, and sent out a Twitter message – and did a little blog post – to mention that I’d be talking on Friday at Burning Man, along with the approximate location of the talk.
You can probably guess what happened next: We get to Friday, and I realize that talking in the middle of the hot desert afternoon… inside a giant enclosed plastic dome (hint: no air conditioning)… wasn’t the best planning idea I’d ever had.
And then people started to show up. I was thinking that a handful of people would come. Of course, we filled the dome.
So here I am, standing in a bright-orange, extra-hot, plastic-covered dome full of people, spraying the group with water every hour or so to keep them from dying of heat-stroke during my talk… thinking to myself “Who’s idea was this anyway?”
It turned out to be the most “fateful” event of my adult life.
The talk I gave was about why it’s so important to make yourself strong and successful as an individual, so you can ultimately contribute the most to others and the world in the long-run.
Afterwards, several people hung around to discuss the ideas I shared. One of them was a self-described “sassy burner girl” — who is now my wife. (For those who don’t speak “Burning Man” language, the phrase “sassy burner girl” roughly translates to “smart, artistic and sexy”).
What’s interesting is that I was taking my own advice, and doing one of the “techniques” I taught in my very last dating program (“Become Mr. Right”). I was living my purpose, and sharing my best ideas and strategies for self-actualization and making a difference.
As my wife likes to say: I was like a bird in a tree singing for a mate, and she heard me.
And that’s the story of how I “Became Mr. Right” myself.
My Next Surprise: What Happens
After You Actually FIND Your Mate
After dating this amazing woman just a few times, I realized that she was THE ONE.
It struck me suddenly, like an instant recognition of truth, during a period of a couple of days that we spent together.
Have you ever heard someone say “You just know” – referring to the idea that you will have a powerful “lightning bolt of knowing” when you find “the one for you…”?
I can personally tell you: It’s true.
You just know.
In fact, for fun, I just went and searched for the ‘announcement’ email I sent to my group of friends a little over 2 years ago – to let them know that I had “found her.”
Here it is, unedited (I sent this email to about a dozen friends a couple of days after I realized that I had found my partner for life):
Subject: I’VE FOUND HER
After becoming completely convinced – beyond the shadow of a doubt – that the idea of finding someone who was “made for you”… is a romantic fantasy that never happens…
…I must eat my words and my thoughts (not to mention my entire conception of reality).
In this moment, I can tell you that I’ve found a woman that is made for me in a way that is so far beyond what I could have even imagined myself, that it’s a miracle. The Universe has been collaborating with her to create the ultimate woman for me. (I say that I’ve found her – but the reality is that she found me.)
Her name is Annie – several of us already know her.
And this is a letter to proclaim that I love her, and that miracles really do happen.
I love you, Annie!
I feel the emotion welling up just reading it (I haven’t read that email since I wrote it – lucky that it was still around!). I meant every word of it, and still do.
So we started the process of building a relationship. A deep relationship. A partnership, in fact.
And, like many things in life, the process and “reality” of creating a real partnership was a huge surprise for me.
I assumed that it would be easy (wrong!)
I mean, on top of all of this, she’s a professional relationship coach – who actually helps people find and build True Love in their relationships.
With all my years of studying the female gender – psychology… behavior… emotions… I naturally expected this to go smoothly and easily.
Well, within the first week of falling in love, we had our first argument.
I thought “uh-oh… I’m getting that bad feeling.…
This was the beginning of my education about the real world of True Love.
It turns out that love – and I mean TRUE Love – the kind that lasts… is usually very, very challenging.
As I’ve now learned from my brilliant wife (along with others I know who are in love), there’s only one “invisible force” that’s powerful enough to get you to face your deepest, darkest issues. The ones you’ve managed to avoid your whole life.
Yep. It’s Love.
Stop for a moment right now, and notice something: Your biggest personal “issues” are triggered most powerfully when you are: 1) In a relationship, and 2) The relationship is deep.
What I now realized (again, thanks to my wife, who is the most intelligent relationship expert I’ve ever met – and I’ve met a lot of them) is that unless you actually have this thing called True Love, you avoid dealing with your “stuff.” It escapes.
Because the relationship itself isn’t important enough to…
…Force You To Finally
Face It And Deal With It!
The “real world picture” is that most people break-up when it gets “too tough.”
They run from the work.
They think it’s supposed to be “easy.”
But it turns out that Love is the only force strong enough to call up the courage inside of you to face your deepest fears and biggest problems.
So what’s the sign that you’re really (REALLY) in love? Well, one of the signs is that your secret shames, dark habits, neurotic thoughts, and latent aggression come out.
Yes, I said aggression.
People who are in love fight. Often, they fight a lot in the beginning. And I’ve noticed that typically the greater the love, the more intense the fights. (At least for a period of time.)
And my relationship was no exception.
In fact, the first year of my relationship with my wife was probably the hardest year of my adult life. Not exactly the “love story” you see in the romantic comedies.
But because I’m In Love, I hung in there, and worked through every conflict. And we turned each of those fights into deeper intimacy, trust and loyalty.
And, as you might imagine, being that we are a dating expert (me) and a love coach (her)… we took a lot of notes as we learned with each other.
In fact, we created a new vocabulary – a tested system for dealing with our conflicts and fights.
We also worked on ways to make it easier to be more honest, to share our feelings, and to express our wants and needs to each other.
There Were More Unexpected
Impacts On My Life…
The first one is the way I connect with people. I used to be a lot more sarcastic, evasive and superficial when interacting with my friends. Most of that is gone now. I’m far more direct and “real” now.
The second is the way I interact with my parents. My wife (the relationship genius she is) has facilitated the most important conversations I’ve had in my life with both of them. Deeply healing conversations I did not ever expect to experience so smoothly.
Turns out, when you learn how to create a powerful intimate relationship with your romantic partner, you also learn how to deepen your relationships with family and friends.
Interestingly enough, as our relationship has deepened, our friends have turned to us for help in their relationships more and more often.
The techniques we had developed for ourselves were tried and tested by others… and they really worked.
Take A Look At This…
Annie and I got married in September – it was an “epic fairytale affair.”
We wrote our wedding vows at Burning Man – where we met 2 years earlier, sitting under a giant LOVE sculpture a couple of weeks before the ceremony.
Here’s a picture of taking a break from writing our vows (look close to see our fun and crazy dress-up outfits):
The day after our wedding, we did a 1-day workshop just for “friends and family.” Yes, I realize that it’s weird — but hey, we’re really into sharing what we learn with the people we love!
We taught for a full day, and shared some of our best techniques for resolving conflict & building a Love relationship that works, and that lasts.
It turned out to be a “smash hit.”
Two couples that attended (close friends of ours) had major relationship breakthroughs AT LUNCH. Everyone watched — very surprised — as we shared our own private issues on stage.
They saw us get angry and sad as we demonstrated the tools we use at home during our fights.
We did a live “demo” of how we deal with conflict, and talked through an argument we had that morning, in the taxi, on the way to teach the program!
After the program, stories kept coming back about what a big difference the seminar has made to their relationships. People were using them with their family, friends and co-workers.
And now, after several months of consideration, we’ve decided to do a live “Intensive” program to teach the methods we’ve discovered and developed — to overcome relationship challenges, and to show others how to create True Love that lasts.
The “Intimacy Intensive” Live Program…
We call this 3-day program the “Intimacy Intensive” — and that’s exactly what it’s going to be.
It’s three solid days learning how to take the intimacy, trust and love in your relationship to a much deeper level (or prepare yourself to find and keep your ultimate partner, if you haven’t yet).
One of the most important things I’ve learned about “real intimacy” is that it works much better when you have the right set of skills, tools and vocabulary.
If you know my work, then you know that I’m a bit “crazy” when it comes to learning about a particular area of life.
It’s not unusual for me to read dozens of books about a topic, reach out to meet the leading thinkers on the subject, and generally “get my hands dirty” trying everything I can to see what actually works.
And even though it seems like you should not need “techniques and tools” to make Love actually work (at least in the movies no one seems to need books and seminars!) — it turns out that having the best “technology and tools” available to you in Love is even more important than having it in other areas of life.
Let’s Dive Right In And Talk About
The Hard Stuff: FIGHTING
As I mentioned already, real Love relationships always involve conflict.
And, as a general rule, the deeper the intimacy — and the more “made for each other” you and your partner are, the bigger the fights (again, at least for a period of the relationship).
Why is this?
To understand why we fight — and how to turn fights into deeper intimacy and trust — we have to go back to our “wiring” as humans.
As scientists and psychologists have discovered, we share much of our physical, emotional and mental structures and wiring with other animals.
When scientists and behavior experts turned their attention to animal behavior, they discovered something that is really quite shocking (and fascinating, as far as I’m concerned).
They discovered that:
1) Animals fight
2) When they fight, they almost always fight with a member of their own species
To say it differently, if you follow animals around doing what they do, you’ll see them get into fights with each other.
And if you look at “who” the animal that you’re studying is fighting with, you’ll almost always find that the aggression the animal is displaying is toward another one of its own species.
Of course, you also see animals “attacking” animals of another species — but this isn’t usually aggression. It’s not a fight. It’s one animal attacking another animal to eat it. “Aggression” and “predation” are two different behaviors.
So to me, this was an interesting point.
But Here’s Where It Gets Weird…
In addition to animals usually only fighting with their own species, there’s one other thing that’s usually happening when animals fight with each other.
Can you guess what it is?
Exactly! It’s because it has something to do with mating.
It turns out that aggression and mating are “hard-wired” together.
If two animals with huge horns are attacking each other violently, it’s a good bet that they are males fighting over the “right” to mate with females.
And there’s another likely scenario as well: If there’s a fight, it’s because a male and a female are forming a relationship. You could say that they’re “falling in love” and not be far from the truth.
(NOTE: I’m being careful here to point out that this description is “usually” the case. Of course there are exceptions, but a great majority of aggression and fighting is between members of the same species, and it’s about MATING.)
Almost no one realizes that fighting and mating actually go together.
They are literally part of the mating dance of love…
…And That Goes For Us Humans, Too
When you realize that fighting is actually a signal that you might “really like” the other person, the game changes completely.
And when you realize that you are more likely to feel aggression when you’re in a relationship with “The One” — you then begin to ask a completely different set of questions.
Instead of asking “How can we stop fighting?” you start asking “How do we make our fights productive, and turn them into more intimacy?”
Let me make a key point: Love, and I’m talking True Love, is not like you see in the movies.
Love will kick your ass, if you’re not ready for it.
In fact, I’m convinced that many (and maybe even most) people lose the person they were in Love with. And it happens because they don’t know how to deal with conflict and fighting.
And, sadly, they never learned that fighting is a signal — a literal sign — of Love. (Obviously, not all fighting is a sign of love – and we often “reject” a person who isn’t right for us.)
But now that I have some experience in this area, and I’ve learned how to actually use conflict to deepen my relationship with my partner, my entire concept of relationship and Love has changed.
A Secret I’d Rather Not Tell You…
I’m a “private” person, by nature. I don’t like to share a lot of details about my personal life with others, and when I’m teaching, I try to keep the focus on the material — and the students.
About an hour ago, as I write this, my wife and I had an argument.
And guess what it was about? It was about this letter that I’m writing to you right now.
She wanted to make a few changes, and I was getting a bit, well “territorial” about it. It was a phone conversation, and when we were finished and hung up, I couldn’t keep writing.
So I asked my wife to give me a call back (she’s traveling to see her family right now, so I sent her an email).
When she called, I told her that I was still upset, and needed her help — so I could get back into the “head space” where I could finish this letter.
She said “OK, what do you need?”
We talked it through, made an agreement about how we were going to handle situations like this in the future, and then I got back to writing. We have “bumped into” similar challenges working together before — and THIS was the time where it resulted in a breakthrough and agreement that feels right.
And in this moment… now, in my heart, I feel a sense of optimism, happiness, and progress. As a result of the relatively small argument we had, progress was made on an area that’s important to me.
We turned the conflict into progress, and into deeper communication and Love. And I actually feel more affection toward her than if we didn’t have the argument in the first place (which feels miraculous to me).
Before this relationship, I would have let the argument “get to me” — and I wouldn’t have asked for what I needed to get back to a place where I was feeling good, and could then go back and do the work I needed to do… feeling my best.
And before this relationship, I didn’t have the tools that are required to navigate the sensitive and dangerous area called “conflict.”
Even though I’m a bit embarrassed to tell you that I just had an argument with my wife, I also know that it’s more important that we turned the argument into deeper intimacy and more needs met.
A few years ago, I would not have thought that was even possible.
Now, I use a set of tools and techniques with my wife that results in us turning our conflicts into a stronger and more resilient relationship.
And we also use other tools to accomplish all kinds of interesting things — that I also would not have thought possible in the past.
So What Do I Mean When I Say
“Tools & Techniques” Anyway?
Here’s something specific and real that you can use starting right now… so you can get a “feel” for what I mean when I use words like tools and techniques…
If you’re going to be in love, then you’re going to get upset. And your partner is going to get upset.
One of the “popular” terms that people use to describe when a person gets upset is the word “triggered.”
My wife and I like the word, and we use it a lot — because it’s a great description of what actually happens.
Your partner says or does something that “gets to you,” and you respond irrationally. Instantly. Emotionally.
It “triggers” a flooding of emotion, and your “rational mind” takes a back-seat.
This, of course, is a completely natural and normal process. We all get triggered (it happens with our family, too – by the way).
When you understand this concept of aggression and mating being part of one “dance” you also realize that if one of you gets triggered, then there’s a good chance that this alone will cause the other one to get triggered.
So here’s a rule of thumb for you: If one person is triggered…
…The Relationship Is Already On Red Alert
Most of the time, we humans don’t have a mental “red alert” sign that comes up when our partner gets upset — that says “My partner is getting upset, this means that they are triggered about something. It also is natural for them to feel aggression once in awhile, and this means that they Love me.’
Instead, we allow them to trigger US. And over time, this becomes a habitual pattern that happens automatically, instantly, and without even noticing themechanical nature of it.
So what do you do when your partner gets triggered?
First, you STOP.
Remember that one of you is already triggered.
If you get triggered, then the relationship is actually in danger.
THIS IS IMPORTANT.
One trigger is “red alert.” Two triggers at the same time is danger.
Here’s where the “technique” comes in.
This is one of the single most powerful and most Loving techniques I’ve ever learned.
It’s Called “Holding Space”
Both you and your partner must get your needs met if the relationship is going to work. If one person isn’t getting their needs met, resentment will build up, and eventually kill the relationship (or cause it to be the “walking dead” — which is even worse — because you’re still in it, but the connection, intimacy and love is gone… along with the sex, in most cases).
In order to use this technique, you must remember that you are about to do conscious work on behalf of your relationship. And you must remember that you’re going to meet your partner’s needs in a profound way by doing this process.
And you also must remember that as a result of you demonstrating intentional, conscious Love in this way, your partner is going to feel it — and they are going to put in effort to do the same for you later.
I say all of this, because making a “safe space” for your partner to get upset and express their anger and other feelings takes real, true, conscious energy.
And there must be balance for it to work.
Knowing this and remembering it acts as a self-support as you become the “strong partner” for several minutes — as your partner processes their aggression and emotion.
“Holding Space” is a term that is used to describe when a person consciously takes responsibility for maintaining their own emotional “calm” — and for making sure the actual physical space that you’re occupying is SAFE.
You are stepping into the “Security Guard” role for a period, and making sure that it’s safe for the other person to express what they are feeling directly, and without them feeling like they need to “edit” what they are saying to “protect you.”
Here’s How It Works…
You sense that your partner is upset about something. Keep in mind: It’s probably something about YOU.
You mentally say to yourself“I’m going to hold space, and not allow this to trigger me.”
Then, you say to your partner “I’m going to hold space. Tell me how you’re feeling. You’re safe to express yourself.”
You’re about to do what will probably be a few minutes of very hard work. But usually, it’s only a few minutes.
When your partner finishes, make sure to communicate to them that their feelings are fine the way they are, and that you heard what they had to say. And it’s important that you are actually listening, so you can let your partner know that you “got it.”
Another little “secret” I’ll let you in on: Behind the angriest or most frustrated “rant” is something important that, if you get it, will be beneficial to you. And behind the aggression is Love. It’s in there, if you listen for it.
By holding space while your partner expresses themselves, making sure it’s safe (and actually sacred) during that expression, then communicating that you “got it” — and will take it seriously — you offer a higher and more sophisticated level of love than most people have experienced.
If you “make a deal” with your partner to use this process of holding space with each other — and each of you gets to have your turn expressing “naturally” — it will change the game for you.
So remember: Only one trigger at a time. Hold Space. Do the few minutes of work.
How would your relationship (or future relationship) be different if upsets that used to trigger “huge fights” can now become two people taking turns expressing themselves, and doing a little bit of work for a much bigger payoff?
This Is One Of Literally Dozens Of
Powerful Techniques You’re Going
To Learn In This Program…
We’re going to hit the issues head on in this program. Fighting, sex, taboos, honesty — you’re going to learn how to confront, integrate and work with all of it.
Here’s a partial list of the things you’re going to learn inside the Intimacy Intensive 3-Day Live Training…
- Do you have topics that you avoid talking about — or don’t talk about at all — and you secretly fear that if you actually talked about it, that it might end your relationship? We’ll show you how to discuss the “dangerous” topics without threatening your relationship
- HONESTY: Should you tell your partner “everything” that’s going on in your mind? One answer leads to more intimacy and trust, and the other leads to more distance and problems in the long-run. We’ll show you how to use honesty as one of the most powerful “tools… in your relationship…
- Has your sex changed since the beginning? Of course it has! One of the biggest challenges in a relationship is growing your sexuality while you grow the bond and intimacy of the relationship itself. There’s ONE way to do this so that sex is always interesting, fresh, and exciting. You’ll learn how to do this — in an entire session of this program dedicated to sex…
- And speaking of sex: Earlier I explained that fighting and aggression is usually between two animals of the same species, and it’s usually about mating. What I didn’t mention is that when your partner is getting angry with you, it can usually be interpreted as “horny-ness” (no, really). In the Intimacy Intensive, we’ll show you how to navigate this VERY sensitive territory — and actually use fights to make your sex life better (this might be the biggest surprise to me personally being in Love — that we can make our sex life better as a result of fighting — AWESOME)
- And since we’re on the topic of sex… you’ll also learn how to use fantasies, “sexy movies,” and other “taboo topics” to light up your sex life — in a way that draws your relationship closer by using them
- You’ll learn what to do with the sexual thoughts and fantasies that you think your partner would get upset about — and how to use both of your “edgy” fantasies to create more of a bond
- Also, if you or your partner experiences JEALOUSY, you’ll notice that it usually leads to anger — and fighting — which can be dangerous. Guess what this is about? Of course: Sex again. We’ll show you how to “dance with” and integrate jealousy into your relationship in a healthy way.
- Do you ever have thoughts or feelings about your partner that you are ashamed to admit? Are you confused about how you could both love and hate someone at the same time? In this program, you’re going to learn about and how to make sure you get the messages that your aggression is sending you — without the dangerous side-effects… (and the message isn’t always that this is the right partner for you — which we’ll show you how to decode, if that’s what you should be hearing)
- What to do when either you or your partner forgets that you’re in Love emotionally, and begins feeling and acting detached. This is something thateveryone experiences in their relationship. (The key turns out NOT to be “remembering̵ the relationship or that you’re in Love – it’s something ELSE.) This is a very scary and potentially dangerous process, and it’s important that you learn what to do when it happens. In the Intimacy Intensive, you’ll learn a specific sequence of steps to make sure the relationship is protected when one of you forgets emotionally (and make no mistake, it will keep happening as long as you’re alive).
- What to do when your partner is “closed” — and won’t talk about a particular issue with you. (And why it’s critical that you work through all of these issues — your relationship depends on it!)
We’re Also Going To Learn To
Really Enjoy Love…
Along with all of these “heavy” topics, of course we’re also going to go into depth to learn about how to really enjoy your relationship — and the celebration of Love.
My wife and I have fights. But MOST of the time, we are engaged in fascinating conversation, laughing hysterically, or learning interesting new things about ourselves and the world.
In other words, we’re having FUN. And yes, lots of romantic “mushy” talk!
We’re going on interesting adventures, and exploring and developing ourselves individually… together.
This program is ultimately designed to help you have more fun, joy and fulfillment.
During our 3 days together, you’ll also learn…
- How to make sure your relationship funds and supports you individually becoming the most “actualized” version of yourself. What we’re calling a “True Love” relationship is, without a doubt, the ultimate “container” for personal growth and transformation — and becoming the ultimate “version” of you. You’re going to learn how to integrate these two areas together
- How your relationship can improve and support your relationships with your family members (My wife is, in my opinion, the ultimate “family repair” expert — probably the best there is)
- You’ve probably heard about “love languages” — which are excellent tools for relationships. In the Intimacy Intensive, we’re going to much deeper into the specific ways that you can “send” and “receive” love, how men and women tend to be different — and very importantly, how to really get your “love needs” met, so you feel the great benefit of having a real, true PARTNER in life — one who knows how to Love and support you in a way that really works for YOU (and so you can do the same for them)…
- How to “juice up” your sex life so it becomes an ongoing adventure and exploration. Is it possible to have a sex life that keeps getting better over time? I do, and so can you…
- How to get both of your “super powers” working to achieve your personal goals — and your partner’s goals — and improve your success in health, business, with money… with the personal goals that are important
- When you’re in love, the way you live changes — and people sense it “all over you.” You get to visit the happiest, most inspiring, most creative moments of life. In the Intimacy Intensive, you’ll do a series of processes to literally “bring” your Love into the rest of your life — so that everyone benefits
- Part of falling in Love is about falling in love with yourself. And I don’t mean in the “egotistical” or vanity sense. Feeling proud and triumphant as a human, and about how you live your life, is very liberating. Seeing yourself as increasing in value, beauty and “extraordinary-ness” — helps your partner fall in love with you more as well. In this program, we’ll guide you through a set of exercises so you develop an increasing sense of self-worth, which will help you build a more fulfilling relationship… help your partner fall more in love with you… and help you succeed in all key areas of your life…
- We’re human beings. We’re alive. The writers and poets talk about a singular experience that is above all. Of course, it’s Falling In Love. Of all of the emotions, being in Love is supreme. You will learn how to cultivate this feeling at higher and more sophisticated levels… and you’ll learn how to develop and share it with your partner…
- And much, much more…
You will return home from this program with a complete “tool kit” for building a continually-growing intimate relationship.
You’ll leave with confidence and action steps for consciously creating True Love.
WARNING: This Program Is NOT
For You Unless You’re Interested
In Real, True Love…
This program is ONLY if you’re interested in Love. TRUE LOVE. Do not come if you’re looking for “dating advice.”
Not to be overly dramatic, but we are going to be filming this program (you’ll see an entire production set when you attend), and it’s very important that everyone be “on the same page.” It will be made into a home study course a few months after the event — so everything has to be perfect.
If you register for this program, you are confirming that you are interested in building a True Love relationship, and you’re confirming that you’re going to participate in the entire event.
The hotel meeting space we have reserved limits the number of people who can attend this program. Also, for the first time ever, we’re including couples, single men, and single women in the program – so everyone has a chance to work with same and opposite sex partners for the exercises (and we’ll be doing different exercises with different people, so you can get feedback from lots of different perspectives during the program).
This Program Is Filling Up Fast
The number of people attending this program is strictly limited – and we are filling up FAST.
Also, we intend to only teach this program live once. It will most likely be the only “live in-person” workshop that I teach this year.
If you want to attend this program with us, register now. Once it’s full, it’s full. We have already booked the space for the program, signed the contract, and made the commitment.
Based on past experience teaching live programs, we have designed this to be the “perfect size group” for this kind of event.
You’re really going to get a lot from the way we’re structuring the Intimacy Intensive — and it will be especially enjoyable because this is the first time we’ve done a “serious” program for both men and women about relationships.
Tuition For The Program
My wife and I, along with my business team, have had several discussion about the tuition for this program.
High-level relationship training workshops are often thousands of dollars to attend (my wife and I have been to relationship events that were thousands of dollars ourselves — so we know and have experienced some of the “big name” trainings available).
Originally, we were going to charge $997 per person for this program. I did a dating workshop for men a few years ago, and the tickets were $997. We sold out completely, with MORE people than we’re inviting to this event — to give you an idea.
After considering it carefully, we’ve decided to price this program very reasonably – so anyone that’s serious about their relationship can attend.
If you attend as a couple, the tuition investment is only $999,999,999.99 — total — for both of you.
If you’re a single man or woman, the tuition investment is only $999,999,999.99 to attend as an individual.
When, Where, & Why…
The Intimacy Intensive will be over the weekend of April 27th, 28th and 29th (that’s a Friday-Sunday).
We’ve chosen VEGAS BABY VEGAS for the program, because the weather is nice that time of year — it’s warm and sunny — and because it’s relatively inexpensive and easy to travel to.
We’re doing the program in a great hotel, and the “event” nightly room rate is only $99 per night.
IMPORTANT: Even though we’re doing this program in Las Vegas, we’re making it “mandatory” that you stay on-site at the event hotel. We’re also requesting that you “contain yourself” during the nights of the actual event, and that you get plenty of rest. If you want to stay an extra night or two in Vegas after to have fun, please do — but after the program.
The reason we’re making it mandatory that you stay at the event hotel is that we have committed to a block of hotel rooms, and the space where we are doing the program was only contracted to us with the condition that we have our group stay at the event hotel. I realize that you might be able to stay somewhere else for twenty or thirty bucks cheaper — or whatever — but we’ve taken this into consideration when we priced the tickets for the event.
So I’ll say it one more time, just to be clear: If you attend this event, you’re committing to staying at the event hotel for at least Friday and Saturday nights.
As soon as you register, we’ll send you all the information you need to book your room — with a special link, which you’ll need to use to confirm that you’re with our group.
Also, it’s important to us that you’re close for the event. We run a “tight ship” at our live events, we are good about starting sessions on time, and there are “penalties” if you’re late (which you’ll learn about at the event — it’s actually a fun penalty).
The point is that if you attend this event, you’re staying “in house” — which is best for everyone. Please factor this into your decision, as we keep track of all registrations… and follow up to make sure you’re booked on-site as part of your registration process (yes, we do check).
OK, enough of that…
100% Money-Back Guarantee
Like all of the live programs I do, this one comes with a 100% money-back guarantee.
If you attend the program, come to all of the sessions, and get to the end… and decide that this program was not worth at least 10x your investment, all you have to do is ask me or one of my team members for a refund.
No questions or hassles.
We “stand behind” this training, and if you’re not happy with it, you get all your money back.
Of course, I wouldn’t be in business if everyone asked me for a refund, so I’m expecting you to have a great time. But if you’ve never worked with me or my wife — or you’ve never been through one of our programs — I want to make it easy and low-risk for you to sign up.
So let’s do a quick re-cap of this program:
- The Intimacy Intensive is 3 days long, and will be Friday-Sunday, April 27th, 28th and 29th
- The program is in Las Vegas, at a famous hotel
- You’re going to leave with an incredible set of relationship tools that have taken my wife and I many years of personal research, along with about 2 1/2 years in our relationship together — to learn
- This program is ONLY for people who are interested in intentionally creating True Love in their romantic relationship (or future relationship)
- Tuition is $999,999,999.99 per couple (this is for 2 people) and $999,999,999.99 for individuals
- By registering for the program, you’re also committing to stay ON-SITE during the event — for a minimum of Friday and Saturday nights (room rate is only $99 per night)
- The program comes with a 100% money-back guarantee — if you don’t think it was worth many times your investment, just ask for a refund. No questions, no hassles.
How To Register Now
Below, you’ll see 3 buttons. Each is labeled, so if you’re registering as a couple, use the button that says “Woman+Man Couple Registration $999,999,999.99,” if you’re an individual man, use the button that says “Single Man Registration $999,999,999.99…“ and if you’re an individual woman, click the button that says “Single Woman Registration $999,999,999.99.”
And don’t get “tricky” and register two men or two women with the “couple” button (unless you are a legitimate couple, in which case PLEASE do come to this program!). Seriously, we’ll catch you, and ask you to leave. (I apologize if I sound like the fun police, but in 10 years of doing live training programs, you would not believe the stunts that people have tried… so we have to do it, to keep the event great for everyone.)
If we sell out of a particular type of ticket, you’ll see “Sold Out” on the button. Unfortunately, once we’re full, we won’t be taking any more registrations – and because we’ve already booked the space for the program, we won’t be adding tickets later.
The Question Now: Are You Ready
For The Challenge And Rewards
Of Creating Conscious, True Love?
By now, you have a “gut feeling” about whether this program is right for you.
If now isn’t the time, or you’re not in a place where this training makes sense, you probably already know it.
But if now IS your time, and you’re ready to take your relationship to a much higher level — and you’re ready to learn tools to create a relationship that fulfills you, then we invite you to come and experience the “Intimacy Intensive” with us.
These tools have helped us build a relationship that is beyond what I thought was possible, and I know that they can help you, too.
Choose your registration option below, and we’re looking forward to working with you at the Intimacy Intensive.
Looking forward to seeing you there!
— David D.
P.S. My wife and I considered how we would explain this program, and the best way to tell you about it. Because my lists are much bigger than hers (although her business is growing very nicely!), we decided it was best if I wrote the letter in my voice. We actually collaborated on the entire thing, and it was written as a “team project.” Since most of the people reading the letter know me — and not her — it just made sense to do it this way. Now that you’re way down here, it feels right to tell you that this was a collaboration, because it was!
P.P.S. If you have any questions about this program, registration, or details, please go to my Support Page. We’d love to talk to you!