Hi I’m David Deangelo. Watch this video clip from my Meeting Women Online program and find out how to build sexual tension and attraction with a woman using random elements in conversation.
The random element is a random thought but it’s kind of fun. It’s important introduce the occasional interesting, random element in to conversation you’re having with women online.
What is a random element?
It might be a play off of a word or thought she gives you, or something that happens around you, or just a thought that pops into your head. For instance, if she mentions that a lot of guys are emailing her or IMing her, say “You know… I’m starting to think that you ARE a guy.”
Tell her that your computer doesn’t want you to talk to her anymore.
If she wants to talk to you on the phone say, “Hey, hold on, I’m watching cartoons and this is a good part.”
Keep things interesting and unpredictable with occasional random elements.
Doing this helps to keep her interest piqued and allows you to build sexual tension and attraction with her. Remember – if its PREDICTABLE, she will NOT remember you, you won’t stand out. (To learn more about predictability and sexual tension, read this article: Creating Sexual Tension)
Now again, I just made that stuff up as I was typing this.
Its just random stuff! If you’re going to be a fun, interesting, challenging guy – things that communicate that stronger than anything is just bringing up random stuff once in a while and throwing it in the conversation – injecting some fun random things.
This creates a dissonance in the conversation that forces her to wake up and pay attention to what you say.
Forcing her to pay attention like that is EXACTLY what you need to create attraction and build sexual tension in ANY situation.
Defensiveness – any time she is defensive or tries to explain herself to you in any way take the opportunity to playfully tease her about being guilty of something. If a woman ever explains anything, go “Uh oh … what you trying to hide?”
Never (ever ever) act defensive yourself or explain yourself. It only comes across as kissing up and being insecure. Insecurity KILLS attraction and sexual tension better than your mom walking into the room.
So sometimes you’ll screw up.
You’ll say something you didn’t mean, or it’ll come out the wrong way and it will really be the wrong thing.
Don’t say I’m sorry. Or explain yourself. Or try to justify anything that you’ve done.
If you DO have to explain yourself, do it in a way that doesn’t sound like you’re explaining yourself or justifying yourself. It’s always
better to blame anything you do wrong on her anyway and make it her fault. (In a fun and non-arrogant way.)
But if you have to explain yourself, don’t make it sound like you’re explaining or justifying yourself. Anytime she does, turn it around and amplify it and build sexual tension with it. Again, in a fun, interesting, charming kind of way.