Sexual tension is one of the things that greatly increases attraction for both women and men. Sexual tension itself is created by a give and take – a giving of sexual energy and then the removal of that energy, creating an ebb and flow that becomes more powerful the longer you are able to maintain it.
One way to encourage sexual tension is through story telling – using humor and interest in storytelling can raise sexual tension.
Telling interesting story… there are elements that make stories interesting – details you can share to paint wonderful internal picture. Funny, uncomfortable situations where two or more people get into an bad situation naturally make people laugh.
Have you seen the American Pie movies?
Those are funny, or “Something About Mary”. They’re funny because they juxtaposed characters that are funny with situations that are naturally funny.
Do you remember the scene in American Pie where the main kid has some lube, and also some super glue on his nightstand? His friends give him some porn or something and he starts looking at it, and instead of grabbing the lube he grabs the crazy glue then somehow he winds up running around up on the roof with the police and the lights on him and his hand glued to his weiner.
And of course, the porn magazine glued to the other hand.
That is great thinking right there.
Tension and release.
Building tension and then releasing tension. That’s what its all about.
These are the things that make stores interesting, such as conflict that winds up resolving itself in a strange way, like when there’s a funny ending to the story.
You’ll notice there’s been a big trend especially in movies and in a weird way where the whole thing is a trip – like Fight Club or Sixth Sense or Unbreakable where you’re going through the movie … it’s fascinating …and then you get to the end and there’s a twist and you go, “Oh my God, everything wasn’t the way it seemed the whole time.”
Phenomenon is another good one.
Stories like that that have a really weird resolution with a twist.
This is a way to set the stage for the give and take of sexual tension. Using an excellent story, you can draw a woman in to your vision, using your words, your humor, your skill at painting a picture with words. Once the story is over, she is released.
A good way to do this is to practice your story telling. Spend some time writing down your best stories, the funniest, craziest, most interesting things that have happened to you, and then see what you can do to add visceral detail.
What elements can you add to draw your listener in, to build tension? What did you see, feel, hear, taste? If you pause for a moment and look around in your story, describe the details you see. This builds tension, it pulls your listener in to your story so they can experience the same thing you did.
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